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DEAR GOD, WE NEED TO TALK


“This is the confidence we have in approaching God: that if we ask anything according to his will, he hears us. 15 And if we know that he hears us—whatever we ask—we know that we have what we asked of him.” 1 John 5:14 -15 (NIV).

It was a Tuesday evening, Lagos traffic did no justice to my tiny body I was really tired and I just couldn’t wait to get home and rest. It was not even about the traffic, I was psychologically and mentally tired, as a matter of fact I felt so frustrated and somehow I mumbled the words “Dear God, we have some talking to do”

I got back home and had a conversation with God, I have been trying to bottle up how I felt for a long while and somehow I just assumed God would never understand because I couldn’t even put my emotions into the right words and I had forgotten that God doesn’t need my eloquence but all that matters to him is that I come just as I am.

I had gotten to the peak that evening and I knew if I don’t find a way to let out my emotions I would only be hurting myself the more so I got into my room that evening and had a conversation with my heavenly father and the interesting part was that I didn’t have the say the words the tears was enough and I could feel the warmth of his presence.

I felt real peace that evening and I knew there was a shift. I might not have not gotten all the answers I needed but I can’t trade that peace for anything!

Dear God, are you even listening?

I don’t know what you are going through and I don’t what and where you are expecting the lord to come through for you but one thing is certain; if you can pray, He is ready to listen. There are some days where it feels as though God is far away because the challenges feel overwhelming but even on such days learn to rest in the arms of your loving father.

Prayer is not a one communication channel, it works in both ways while you talk be patient to listen to instructions but beyond that enjoy the fellowship and companionship of His presence. Don’t come into his presence with a perfect heart, if you are heartbroken tell him how you feel and you don’t have to say the perfect words.

The bible says in Hebrews 4: 15 “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to empathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are–yet he did not sin” (NIV). Jesus became human and he felt all you are feeling, how do you think God felt at that point when He had to deny his only son on the cross? He must have felt a big loss and his heart so broken and have you also thought of how Jesus felt too when his dear father who has never denied him of anything turned his back on him, no wonder he had to cry “my father, my father why have you forsaken me” and all this happened because the father loves us deeply.

We have a high priest who understands how exactly we feel. The next time your heart is so heavy and you can’t even process how you feel you can silently whisper the words or even scream it out loud “Dear God, we need to talk” with that you invite Him and even if you can’t find the right words just tell him how you feel and exchange your worries in worship.

ALSO READ: PATIENCE WHILE WAITING

Enjoy His presence and watch him give you a new name.

You are deeply loved.

Your friend and sister,

Onome Omodara

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2018: LESSONS LEARNT AND THE JOURNEY AHEAD

Phew! 2018 is finally packing its load to leave for good. It has been a wonderful year actually, it came with its own challenges and of course it had its own good moments. I know if I ask you how the journey has been you sure have a lot to say.

A lot has happened during the course of the year but we are grateful for the gift of life and we can all say in sincerity that God has been faithful. I know yours might not be so cozy, it is even possible you have not achieved all your goals but look to the brighter side! You can still do more so don’t give up!

LESSONS LEARNT

There are so many lessons I learnt this year but some stood out for me and I hope it helps and challenges you as you progress and journey into 2019.

Whatever God tells you to do just do it:

One major lesson 2018 taught me was that God’s instruction does not have to make sense before you listen. I remembered trying to argue my way when I heard the instruction to write “there was a girl” but looking back at the journey the number of testimonies that came after that book humbled me and I’ve learnt to always listen to the father’s voice and obey, It saves you from a lot  of stress so in 2019 just like Mary said to the servants “whatever he tells you to do just do it”

Build relationships not platforms: 

A lot of times we struggle to be relevant and be seen but the secret is simple just build good relationships. You will always need people, when you are good men will always come running when you need them. Life was not designed to be lived alone so in 2019 be intentional about your relationships.

Be humble and teachable

This is  one major lesson 2018 taught me. Humility opens door for you, when you are willing to learn you will sit before kings. This coming year I can assure you that humility will help you if you choose to keep her.

Be intentional about growth:

Growth is not a very easy process, I can tell you it takes a lot of effort. This year I promised myself I was going to read a lot of books but at the end of the day I didn’t meet my target but it was a big lesson for me that is not about the words of my mouth but it is an intentional process.

Always acknowledge the place of God

I can’t underemphasize the place of God. He is the most important factor. I am never self-made I’m just a girl loved recklessly by the father! Take time to always acknowledge God after every little victory and I can bet you are setting yourself up for bigger victories.

THE JOURNEY AHEAD

 

I know we are all excited at the thought of a new year but what happens when the Euphoria ends and we are faced with a major challenge. Like a preganant woman we are all expectant about what 2019 will bring but while we wait we need to be very intentional.

Earlier this month, I tried writing my goals for the New Year and it occurred to me that did I really achieve all my goals in 2018 and all of a sudden I became so disheveled and at a point I was getting so paranoid but I had to come to myself and I realized that it’s okay not to have it figured out, just relax and celebrate your little victories.

It is not enough to set goals there is a need to be very intentional, what are the steps to take to achieve the goals and have a good result. Be very deliberate and intentional and if you can, get an accountable partner to put you in check.

CONCLUSION

2018 is coming to an end and if you didn’t get to achieve all your goals, don’t wallow in pain cheer up and start again. To those who encountered heartbreaks, pains and major challenges this year it is not the end of the world.

2019 promises to be brighter, don’t give up on love, don’t give up on your dreams I look forward to celebrating and sharing your success story.

Thank you for staying me throughout this year, if you ask any writer the real deal is in getting feedbacks. Feedbacks encourages us to do more. Thank you to everyone who sent me a mail, those who wrote me a note, and those who even recommended my books I am really grateful! Onomewrites is nothing without your love and support.

I am your invisible friend and I do love you!

Thank you for staying with me

Let’s do more in 2019.

Your friend,

Onome Omodara

 

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THERE WAS A GIRL

 

Yay!!!!!!!!!!!

Let me start by appreciating you for visiting my blog and more importantly for choosing to pick your copy of my new book “There was a girl”. This means a lot to me!!!! Thank you!!!

I want to specially introduce you to this book “THERE WAS A GIRL”. It is a story of the girl I was and how I encountered grace. The truth is we all have stories and writing this book is not as exciting as I thought it was going to be, it took an unusual grace and total surrender to write this story in its raw form. This is a part of my story, it is basically the story of how I battled with a self-esteem and depression as a young lady.

There were days that the only thing I thought about was suicide, I have had to wonder if God was really alive but I am a proof that God is alive and His love will always find you just like it found me and pulled me out.

Nobody wants to be the odd one, nobody wants to be treated like a chaff and that is not even God’s plan for any one of us, he wants us to shine so that in turn we glorify Him. I do know what it feels like to be that odd person, to be talented yet unnoticed but I want to tell you that it’s not over and you don’t have to remain in the cell of depression.

Guess what?

This book opened my eyes personally too and it brought me close to tears at some point because just like you I’m an ordinary girl who had nothing special but extra was added to my Ordinary when I discovered who I really am in Christ Jesus.

I can guarantee you that it is going to be worth your time and the juicy part is that it is ABSOLUTELY FREE. I wish I could say this book was all my idea but that would be a total lie it came as inspiration and I knew right there that is what God wanted me to do this season.

Thank you so much for being a part of this vision, thank you for choosing to pick up this book. I could not have done without you. Please do me a favour make sure you share this book on your social media pages and with everyone you know. People are committing suicide daily and it’s all because they couldn’t get the right help but together we can make a great impact in the world.

Once again, thank you for choosing to read this book.

Ready to read about the girl I was and how I found God’s love?

Kindly download it here THERE WAS A GIRL

Don’t forget to drop your review, tell me how you feel about this book.

I love you!

Yours,

Omodara Onome

 

 

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LETTER TO MY 23 YEAR OLD SELF

 

“Promise me, O women of Jerusalem, not to awaken love until the time is right.” Songs of Solomon 8:4 (NLT).

 

I celebrated my birthday last week and it took me down memory lane, I realized I made some mistakes and I have no regrets but it is expedient that the world understands that there is always a better way and some mistakes are better avoided.

 

I hope this letter encourages that single person who is tired of waiting and it helps that person who keeps trying to find love on his own terms, I’m not asking you to give up on love I’m only asking to try the best method! Before you give up read this:

 

My Dearest Onome,

Baby girl, I can see that you are trying. You have jumped from one boyfriend to another, moved from one situationship to another relationship searching for what is not lost. You wonder if God is with you. He set you up with some to help them, he used you for them but yet none is the answer. You have wondered where he is. Not one of these men is qualified to help you fulfill the assignment. He is not the one.

All your friends are in serious relationships they are flaunting their relationships on social media, you prayed for them and they are happy but you ask where your own Isaac is? You met a new guy some months ago he is handsome and classy what if he is the one? no my dear he is not the one.

You have known this one for a long while he has been on and off but you think this time around he is here to stay you gladly tell your friends about him, you are waiting for the day he will ask you out but he is yet to say anything. He keeps telling you he loves you but he is not proving it, it became worse when he forgot your birthday but you forgave him after all you love him but on his birthday you went all out flaunting him on social media stop wasting your time my darling he is not the one.

Then you met another you know he is not the one but you can’t afford to be single you think singleness is a life of loneliness but what you don’t understand is that it is a life of surrender. Every time the thought of him leaving you comes to your head you get panic attacks, you prayed that God should make him the one but you know you are not of the same passion. I know he loves God but He is not assigned to you I know it hurts but he is not the one.

Stop trying to do it without God, stop forcing the father into relationships he never ordained. Little did you know that all the father needs from you is total trust. Give him the pen of your love life and let Him write the best story with it.

Little did you know that all the efforts you are putting in getting people to see you or men to like you, God wants you to invest in Him. He wants you to seek him with the whole of your heart and he in turn will bless you with the desires of your heart.

Little did you know that years from now you will meet your man. This man will love you passionately, he will gladly show you off, he will be God’s gift to you. Do you know that he will love you with all his might and apologize deeply when he is wrong? Do you know this man will lead you back to the father? He will pray for you and with you. Do you know that He will love you like Christ loves the church? Do you know he will not be shy to tell everyone you are his? Do you know he will treat you like a queen that you are? Do you know together you will fulfill purpose and serve the father forever?

Do you know that it’s possible to have undeniable peace in a relationship?  Do you know that the validation you think you can get from another man can ONLY come from God?

Baby girl, you have tried. Now rest. You are smart and beautiful, you don’t need any man’s validation, you are a complete being. you deserve to be loved and valued, you deserve to be happy.  stop doing it your own way. rest in the father’s love. Love who you are and the woman you are becoming. Be patient love will find you at the right time.

Enjoy singleness and be deeply rooted in the father. This man is worth waiting for so while you wait be prepared.

Your big sister,

Onomewrites.

 

CONCLUSION

I know waiting is tough if you ask me I have a lot of stories to tell but I’m a testimony that nothing is wrong with being satisfied in your singleness. Nothing is wrong with you chasing the father. Stop trying to seek validation from men, you are complete in Christ. Stop chasing love let your heart find rest in the father’s love! The wait is always worth it because the right one will make you forget all the pains.

I love you!

Your friend and sister,

Omodara Onome

 

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PATIENCE WHILE WAITING

 

“Yet God has made everything beautiful for its own time” (Ecclesiastes 3: 11)

Ciara was a beautiful and hardworking lady, in her single days she was that kind of lady who will make heads turn, beauty was not the only the thing that made her glow neither was it all about her intellect she had a good character and this was enough to make you to take her to Mama.

Her parents got divorced when she was twelve she had to stay with her dad while her younger brother who was just nine then had to stay with her mom. Life was hell with her step mom, she was constantly maltreated and she spent a lot of nights wishing life was better. She was allowed to go and see her mom once in a year and each time she went to see her mom she did not want to come back home but there was nothing her mom could do.

She secretly hated the idea of marriage but has she grew older her perspectives changed and she vowed never to miss it in Marriage. She was very intelligent she graduated with a second class upper and she got a very good paying job after the compulsory one year youth service.

She was committed to the lord and his work, she met her Husband Charles in church they were friends for six months before he asked her out and she took her time to get all the confirmation she needed before she said yes to him. Ciara had had her heart broken several times before she decided to give the lord her love life and He in turn blessed her with Charles.

Charles had liked Ciara the very first day he met her in the workers’ meeting after service, he sat beside her but there was something unusual about her and he knew he had to be her friend. After the meeting they exchanged contacts and they became friends, three months along he knew she was the one but he wanted to be sure by the sixth month of their friendship he was sure he wanted to spend the rest of his life with this amazing woman.

One year later, they tied in the knot in Ciara’s local church, it was a very beautiful event and it was so obvious that Ciara who was the rejected stone has now become the cornerstone and she was grateful that the lord had kept her, she was glad her mum, dad and stepmom were all alive to be a part of her big day.

She was 27 and her husband was 29 when they got married, she got married as a virgin but the problem came when she couldn’t conceive, she became worried but her husband was so supportive and he kept telling her that the Lord was faithful and just.

She was later diagnosed with submucosal fibroid a type of fibroid which is found on the inner lining of the uterus and research has shown that is not so common but when Ciara was diagnosed with fibroids she almost ran mad, she felt so terrible but her husband stood by her, she had to undergo a surgery but even after the surgery nothing happened.

Her mother-in-law made life difficult for her and every day she was reminded of her childlessness, she knew the lord told her she would be a mother of nations but it felt like those promises would never come true.

Waiting became tough but she had to embrace patience and trust the process, five years after she delivered a set of twins, a boy and a girl and indeed her heart was full and filled with gratitude. The lord used her to start a ministry for women who were waiting and she shared her story with a lot of women and that story encouraged a lot of people in their wait.

CONCLUSION

Waiting is not as easy as it sounds, I’ve had times I had to wait and I can tell you that it’s not so much fun. While waiting you really need to be patient but patience is a bit tough especially in this microwave generation where we want things done at the snap of our fingers but there is a process.

 

I wondered how Abraham and Sarah waited that long, the bible contains stories of men and women who had to wait for their promises to come to manifestation. If you ask any woman who is expecting a child she will tell you she can’t wait for the nine months to be over, she endures every form of pain just so she can have her child and when that child comes the pain is forgotten that’s what waiting feels like. Warren buffet said “You can’t produce a baby in one month by getting nine women pregnant” some things just take time and you need to build the capacity to be patient while waiting.

HOW TO BUILD YOUR PATIENCE

  1. Meditate and confess God’s promises: You can never underestimate the place of confession, I just got to understand the efficiency of this tool and I can tell you it really works. You become what you confess, what has the lord said to you? What are His promises over your life? Keep confessing it.
  2. Pray again and again: when God gives you a word, it is your duty to birth it in the place of prayer, pray until you get the instructions, pray until you find peace and even after the promises get manifested don’t stop praying. Don’t become too busy.
  3. Build your faith: God never asks us to have a big faith, faith is not about the size it’s about the strength. Keep building your faith and find the strength to keep moving in difficult times.

Waiting is never easy but the testimonies are always worth sharing at the end of the day you will be glad the lord took you the process. Trust the process, trust the father. Your story will encourage others, you are stronger just be patient!

You are loved

Yours,

Omodara Onome