Author: Onome Omodara

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THE DIARY OF A FASHIONPRENEUR


WRITER’S JOURNAL

THE DIARY OF A FASHIONPRENEUR
JAKE GRACE: ANNOINTED FOR BUSINESS

Jake Grace is a lady you dont want to miss, from her intelligence to her hunger for success, she is one of the few I call the confident women. She is a graduate of Computer Science but decided to move into the fashion business, she is the CEO of Jake collectibles a fashion company that is interested in making you look good. Without any iota of doubt this lady is really anointed for business.  In this interview, Grace shares her story and also gave some tips to young entrepreneurs and dream chasers. I had plenty fun and I also learnt a lot from interviewing this amazing lady. I hope this adds value to your life. 

Enjoy.

Onome: What makes Jake Grace an amazing young lady?

Grace: Everything that makes me an awesome lady is centered on God. I am just one phenomenal person, that is daily working on my weaknesses to become the best God wants me to be.


Onome: Who exactly is this beautiful lady called Jake Grace?

 Grace: I am a person of honesty, I value my credibility, I enjoy my space more…. lol 

I treasure friendship, the little I have in my circle knows I can’t trade them for shekels of silvers. 

Onome: Wow..Beautiful

Grace: Jake Grace is a lady who understands the importance of existence. 
I am not there, but I am steps closer to what God wants me to be.  
I want to look back years from now, FULFILLED. 
I don’t want to be part of the people who came full and left same.  
I want to leave Empty!


Onome: Thats so deep! 
Onome: so, tell us, what exactly do you do?

Grace: I am a FashionPreneur, a wardrobe shopper.

I do your shopping stress for you with just little amount


Onome: When exactly did you discover your line of purpose?

Grace:  Sometimes, in 2013. I knew I had to take my self seriously and get more focused.

I just do my thing naturally, and I see it falling in line. I can’t remember precisely but all I know is my addition of clothing and accessories brings out a beautiful style everyone admires 

Onome: I concur to that, aunty you can dress o

Onome: You studied computer science so how did fashionpreneur enter?

Grace: Lol

 While everyone was enjoying writing plenty lines of jargons (its fetching them cool money though) but for me, at every back of my books were one calculation or the other, and the number of goods I wanted to order. 

Programming is cool, but been a Fashionpreneur is the real cool!

 Onome: (Laughs) 
Onome: Looking back right now has there really been a time you felt like quitting?

Grace: Yes, I quitted so many times. 

I failed, I lost interest, at a point I squandered my Capital, I abandoned the business, I started and paused, I continued and I am still continuing.  
One thing that keeps me going is “When God calls you to do it, he equips you! Each time I envisage the vision and emission of this “project” , I know I can’t give up! 

This entrepreneur journey has been an exciting roller coaster

 Onome: Yes ma’am 


When God calls you to do it, he equips you
 Onome: How important is the Godfactor in the place of purpose fulfilment?

 Grace: He is the real G. Take God away, then all left is chaff
Onome: What is the place of friendships and loved ones in business growth?

Grace: Business is Business. I do not trivialize my business for the sake of friendship and every other ships.

My Business has a life on its own while the Friendship, relationship and all other ships has its own life outside my business. Although, their input cannot be overemphasized when properly managed
Onome: So, who are your role models in the field and generally?

Grace: I follow the likes of Folorunsho Alakija, Mo Abudu. I do not yet have a physical rapport with them but their existence speaks volume. I admire them and I love them
Onome: what are the requirements for being a successful entrepreneur?

Grace: The first requirement to becoming a successful entrepreneur is having absolute passion and total belief in what you are trying to achieve. If you do not believe in what you are doing…….you will never be able to persuade anyone else to believe. 

“Passion sustains you through the long dark nights”


Finally, in all, it is the blessings of God that maketh rich, that makes doors opened, that compels favour irrespective of the painful toil.

Onome: Thank you so much for your time 

Grace: Its an honour ma’am

CONCLUSION


“Keep your dreams alive. Understand to achieve anything requires faith and belief in yourself, vision, hard work, determination, and dedication. Remember all things are possible for those who believe. ” (Gail Devers).

I know that dreams and visions could scare anyone, there are times I look at my dreams and wonder if I could ever achieve them but like Grace said, God never called you to abandon you, He will definitely see you through. Keep your dreams alive and take them one at a time, dont be scared of starting small. 

Your dreams are valid!
Omodara Onome

Life and Relationship Coach

Onomewrites@gmail.com

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An interview with an intellect

WRITERS JOURNAL
AN INTERVIEW WITH AN INTELLECT

Chukwuma Ogboi: A man who strongly believes in a new Nigeria

If there is one thing you might never catch me doing, it is listening to anything that has to do with politics its just not a subject of interest for me, but somehow I stumbled on articles written by this young man on Nigeria and its political system and I became fascinated, I must say it got my attention . I had fun interviewing him, its my utmost pleasure to share his story. kindly read about him and the projects he is presently working on.
Enjoy the interview


Onome writes: Who is Chukwuma Ogboi? 

Ogboi: Simply put, I am a Geoscientist, a Strategist, a Content writer and Blogger.
Onome writes: Tell us about your love for writing? 

Ogboi: It began with me just loving to put things down on paper in my early years however I got concerned with time about my country and its epileptic leadership and saw the need to provide a counter narrative to the propaganda they spew. Although, writers like Pastor Olatide Peters, Muyiwa Adetiba, Dele Sobowale, Precious Forcados, also had a great influence on me.


Onome writes: What motivates you to keep writing?

Ogboi: As I said earlier, I started writing in secondary school, back then I covered all sport activities within and outside my school, and growing up I found it more interesting, it gives me so much joy really.

Onome writes: How do you handle disappointments as a writer?

Ogboi: Well, I believe I’m a clear headed opinion writer, I just try as much as possible to avoid grievances and sentiment whenever I write, I keep it as safe as possible, although, its a tough one for me because I’m very familiar with adjectives but I wont stop on account of that.
Onome writes: As a young passionate Nigerian what would you say you have achieved so far?

Ogboi: So far I have been a columnist on This Day, and a promoter of change for a better society, I have dedicated myself to enlightening Nigerian youths on how to be better leaders in the face of various challenges that plague the country. With this mandate to create change with every available platform, I have written so many opinion articles which highlight my perception on national issues that affect the lives of Nigerians.

Onome writes: Okay, That’s a big one!

Ogboi: Thank you Onome

Onome writes: Why do you believe so much in the Nigerian youths?

Ogboi: Truth is, the strength of a country lies on the capacity of the youth. Although, young people have always held political leadership positions. Donald Duke was governor at 36; Dimeji Bankole was speaker at about the same age, and a couple of others who were ministers in their late thirties. I believe there are exceptional young people who already are holding their own across various industries, we only need to identify, encourage and support their political ambitions, and most importantly, build their capacity.


Onome writes: Do you see yourself aspiring for Political positions in the future?

Ogboi: Ooh, absolutely! Although, I will like to start from the National assembly where I can put forward bills to better our institutions, because there seems to be too many imaginative perceptions about our institutions lying fallow and unattended to.
Onome writes: So let’s leave politics a little

Onome writes: So what do you do for fun??

Ogboi: I sometimes play virtual games, car racing to be precise, and most times I relax with News items
Onome writes: Would you describe yourself as an extrovert?

Ogboi: Going out is really not my thing owing to my background, but I do occasionally hangout with friends for say birthday or just to the movies.
Onome writes: Okay, lets talk about your new book coming very soon but before we do let me ask, how many books have you written so far?

Ogboi: This is the first, I have however written and published several opinion articles
Onome writes: Okay so let’s have an insight into your book, whats the title of the book?

Ogboi: Its titled For Uzoma, a collection of contemporary thoughts


Onome writes: What inspired you to write the book?

Ogboi: At first, I was frankly fascinated by Uzoma’s leadership style and capacity and I decided to create a template for posterity. Also when the new party took office in 2015, I made it a duty to hold them to the promises they made to Nigerians. I thence decided to publish a weekly opinion critiquing the actions and inactions of government both at a strategic and operational level. It is to drive and influence a new thinking from the people. One cannot demand what he’s ignorant about; this collection will give many Nigerians the reason to demand more from elected government officials, and it is also supposed to make leaders a lot more accountable to the people.


Onome writes: Tell us please, who is Uzoma?

Ogboi: Wow!! If I decide to talk about the character, Chinweokwu Uzoma, we won’t end this interview. Let me simply put, for the sake of time; I met him in the pursuit of academic excellence in one of the best Universities in Nigeria, FUTA, in 2008 he’s a brand in morality and an exemplary leader!
Onome writes: So what’s the book all about?

Ogboi: The book is actually a tribute to my jolly good fellow, a thought leader, full of wisdom, highly compassionate, Uzoma. I wrote about something worth focusing about which his is style of leadership and tact. In the book, I wrote a letters to my President, In it I explored the ineptitudes and stupidity of those in leadership, In it, you’ll also get my views on the Biafra agitations ,Hate speeches, Niger Delta agitations, American vs. North Korea, I believe It’s all about ideologies. It’s a collection of my thoughts on issues bothering the nation, our relationships, and sundry issues.
Onome writes: What is your expectation about this book for its readers?

Ogboi: One thing this book will do is to make you think, and once you learn the art of thinking differently, you develop a critical aspect of leadership.


Onome writes: Do you have a target Audience?

Ogboi: Absolutely, Anyone can actually pick it up and read. In fact, everyone should read it

 

Onome writes: So when is it going to be ready for sales, how much will a copy cost?

Ogboi: A thousand naira or its dollar equivalent
Onome writes: Just before we wrap up, what do you think is the future of Nigeria?

Ogboi: Sadly, the crops of leaders we’ve had and have hardly care about what the people think, they look down on every one of us and consider critics like us Wailers. They consider us noise makers, and when we are tired, we will close shop. However, I still strongly believe, even if it doesn’t happen in my lifetime, Nigeria will be a great country again.


Onome writes: After this book is released what should we expect from you? 

Ogboi: I’m presently working on two (2) others. One is the collection of my weekly opinion articles titled, The pontification while the other is yet to be disclosed.


Onome writes: Thank you for time Mr. Chukwuma Ogboi

Ogboi: Its a great honour Miss


CONCLUSION

If we all like Mr. Chukwuma Ogboi can rise up to fight for the freedom of our country, if we can protect its integrity and believe in its future, then Nigeria will emerge as a  desirable nation. After interviewing this young man my love for this country increased and I’m anticipating the release of that great book For Uzoma: a collection of contemporary thoughts and I’m sure you are too. Keeps your fingers crossed and lets make a better Nigeria possible.

Omodara Onome

Life and Relationship Coach

Onomewrites@gmail.com

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single without wrinkle

SINGLE WITHOUT WRINKLE

YES!!!

Let me first start by appreciating you for clicking on this link! It means a lot to me!! Thank you!!

I want to specially introduce you to my new book titled SINGLE WITHOUT WRINKLE. It is a book that gives you the practical step on how to maximize the season of singleness. The truth is a lot of us do not want to wake up in the morning to an empty side of the bed; we crave for the feeling of being loved but what do we do when that love is taking time?? Singleness is a season and a phase a lot of people are scared to admit but I can boldly say it is the best phase of any one’s life if properly handled and used well.

Guess what?

This book opened my own eyes personally and it brought me close to tears at some point because like every other young person I thought being in a relationship is the most important until I got to discover some hard truths which I shared in this book. The beautiful thing about this book is that even if you are engaged it will definitely help you, please make sure you read it with your spouse. I am so glad that I am able to share this with you! I am sure you will enjoy the meal as Pastor Bayo Olaiya called it.

It is an ebook (in pdf format) published by Fourz media.

Price: N500

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Thank you so much for being a part of this vision, I could not have done this without you; you give me reasons to keep moving on. Please share this page on your social media accounts with every one and let’s impact the world together.

You don’t have to give up on love there is a better way!!!

Cheers!!

Onome Omodara

(onomewrites)

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CHRONICLES OF A PK-2

Chronicles of a PK-2

(A decision to live right)

Preacher’s kid (PK)

In case you missed the first part of this article read up here

If there is one thing you don’t choose in life it is your parents, nobody gets to choose who gives birth to them. It is God’s idea so I need you to understand that God definitely knew what He was doing when he decided that your parents will be preachers. You need to stop complaining and wake up to accept your call. 

Being a Pk is a call on its own and I’m sure you don’t want to fail God, stop blaming your parents for your mistakes; you don’t need to hate your church members either.

Your life is a product of your decisions and people can only advise you or push you, you still have the decision to make, you can choose to allow their criticisms tear you apart or push you forward. 

Before I continue let me share with you two different stories written by two different people, the only common thing about both writers is that they are Pks.

STORY 1

MY EXPERIENCE AS A PK

I am a PK and I am so proud to declare it but initially I hated it. My story is a bit unique in the sense that my dad wasn’t just a Preacher, but was and still is a deliverance minister. And as a result I have had my own fair share of challenges.

My story goes thus:

I was born and raised in a Christian home by a father who was not just strict but also very blunt and life was very challenging for me. My dad had some routines you must strictly abide to if you want to remain in his house and they are:

1. Family devotion

2. Bible recitation

3. Fasting.

The first time I fasted in my life was when I was about 4years old. Fasting was done every Saturday in my house and you are not permitted to eat until 12 noon and on such days the kitchen is always empty so you can’t even think of visiting the kitchen.

When we misbehaved the favorite scripture for discipline in the house, was Eph.6vs.1-3. And also the adage that says “Spare the rod, spoil the child”. We learnt to pray by force. So it actually took time to develop a friendly relationship with God. It was more of if you don’t pray or read your bible the cane is just around the corner. It was compulsory.
Well, such was my growing up experience but beyond that the church folks had very high expectations of us as and if by chance we got to lie or misbehave we were done for, because daddy must definitely hear and our beating would start right from the church and we would get more when we got back to the house. Most times we were not just dealt with by the cane there are days we were taken for deliverance because there was a belief that it must be a demon causing us to misbehave.

Well the good news of the entire story is that the experience made me strong emotionally and also made me a better person in retrospect. So even till now I can do without meal without any hindrance.

The experience taught me the value on time management and consciousness on responsibilities given. When I finally got to know who God is the experience made me value my relationship with Him and it also helped me to get closer to God.

Being a PK might not be fun initially but I got to love who I was as I grew older and saw life differently.

STORY 2

MY EXPERIENCE AS A PASTOR’S KID

  A lot of people often think being a pastor’s child is something trivial and normal. But no! It’s not, I’ve experienced it and I’m still experiencing it. When you’re a pastor’s child, you don’t get to live like a regular child, it changes you so much, the extent of which you might not know. And the thing is it either softens you or hardens you more. 

   When my father became a pastor, things changed for me and my siblings, everything changed, the first time we got to the church where my dad was pastoring, I could remember my age mates using honorifics like “sir” for me. I felt good at first, it was as if I was held in high regard but then I noticed that it was hard for me to make friends with them using honorifics for me. I was only able to make friends when they dropped the honorifics. Nevertheless, the respect was still there. Then, of course, there were the typical expectations from congregants and peers about the kind of person I should be. I was expected to be this “unflawed fruit of the spirit” guy, as a pastor’s child when you’re 5 years old, people see 10, then at 10 they see 18, at 18 they see 25, and you were expected to grow up at a very tender age. They all want you to be perfect and it makes me feel like am suffocating or drowning, it’s sometimes as if I had forgotten who I am and am stucked, doing another person’s best, living another life, a totally different life. 

I suddenly became a model, someone that all my mates and even older people look up to, I barely had a social life, this is probably the main reason why I seldom go out of my room, even though am a man. These expectations are unending, academically, I was expected to be tops, always, spiritually, I was expected to be spirit-filled, morally I was expected to be 100% sound, I must never make a mistake – it’s like every single step I take is being monitored. The remark often heard from pastor’s kids is a feeling of being held to a higher standard and you come across the never-ending persistent question everyday “aren’t you a pastor’s child?” 

    And though I faced a lot as a pastor’s child – still facing a lot, it still made me who I am today, it made me to grow up at a very young age, I became mature and more matured at a tender age, I got to meet great people, it even brace me with the sense of having a responsibility and above all I became closer to God. 

   And even though at first it seemed that I had to live another life, people expected me to be different, yes, I was, I was different, until I started living me, it was tough being a pastor’s kid, but it has taught me something and it is the fact that being a pastor’s kid you can’t run away from it. you just have to face it as you, as who you are, let them see you’re not the unflawed guy they all think you are, yes you have flaws and you will make mistakes so that you’ll be corrected, and you’ll never feel like you’re drowning again, if you live you and you just do you!

CONCLUSION

When I read these stories I felt their pains and their joy and I can really relate with the two stories. Until you accept who you are people will always have a say over you. The only person you owe your life is God so let your life please Him and not any man.

Gone are the days of the generation of Eli, Pks are doing great things so don’t you ever believe that myth that says Pks are always instruments for the devil. No, we are God’s battle axe to help and support our parents’ ministry. 

There are Pks who are pastors, just take a cue from Pastor David Oydepo (Jnr), look at Pastor Leke Adeboye and many others. You need to stop sulking and be who God made you to be. 

Don’t allow people give you reasons why you need to pretend, you don’t have to please anybody just make a decision to live right and please God. 

Keep being you!

I love you!

Your friend, 

Omodara Onome

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ZONED RELATIONSHIPS

ZONED RELATIONSHIPS

Daniel had met Leticia at an event and they had kicked off from there, they became best of friends and they would always spend time together every day. Leticia saw Daniel as a confidant and she always enjoyed talking to him, in three months they got to know everything about each other. Over time Leticia started seeing him as a brother and without Daniel noticing she stylishly relegated him to the brother zone but there was just one problem Daniel wanted more but what could he do, he accepted his fate that he has been zoned by the lady he has grown to love passionately.

A lot of relationships that had the potentials to happen have been stylishly thrown away all in the name of zones but I discovered something in my experience and encounter with people it takes two people to successfully zone each other, both the zoner and the zonee played a major role in making a zoned relationship happen. Zoned relationships does not just happen it has started long before we realized it, the way you handle matters in relationship, you have plans to date a lady and then all of a sudden you start acting as if you are her father she will end up putting you in a box, the way you relate with the opposite sex goes a long in determining the strength and length of that relationship

SPIRITUAL FATHER ZONE

I really need to talk particularly about this zone; this particular zone level is common among university students and graduates. I’m yet to understand you are in 400 level and you are busy forming spiritual father for a lady you want to go out with, the wife you should marry you are there calling her daughter, the girl has a built a trust relationship around you so much that she dumps all her relationship problems at your feet and then you automatically assume the post of an assistant holy spirit and you are there burning inside even God is just watching you.

I’m very scared of this zone, the day you start acting as if you are her father the lady starts to pattern her life and thinking system to see you as a father figure. 

Brothers, don’t assume a post God did not put you, don’t take a job you were not employed to do. Stop choking a lady and acting as if you her father all in the name of trying to help her, as much as she needs your help be wise about it.

Before you zone him/her wait!

A lot of people have been so quick to make decisions they end up regretting, before you zone a person off be very sensitive and be very sure because over time you get to see their potentials and then you want to reconsider so I implore you to be patient before you throw that guy or lady in a zone. Time is a revealer of things before you make a hasty decision be patient.

I learnt a lesson some years back about zoning people, the guy you think does not have potentials or that lady you think is not smart enough you might be surprised to see them months or years later looking so different because everybody has great potentials some just find theirs before others. You really need to be sensitive because a lot of times your emotions can fail you so never use your emotions as a yard stick to zoning anybody off.

I understand that when you meet a person you want to be a friend so as to get to know them but the mistake a large number of us make is that we assume a position of authority while trying to be friends, be simple and keep your heart open, the way you relate with him or her goes a long way. The secret to not being zoned is this: be wise and smart in your relationships when a lady starts calling you “brother” stylishly reject it that is if you have the intentions to go out with her, don’t be comfortable with titles that are not yours especially when she calls you “best friend” stylishly let her know you have intentions so that you get zoned. 

CONCLUSION

There is always a solution to every problem, if you have been zoned then it’s not time to panic and accept fate take a bold step and make your intentions known. Love itself is a risk and you must be willing to take that risk.

I have seen guys who have been in a box and they gladly came out of it but you have to be willing to take that risk, I know a lot of you are scared of the relationship tearing apart but until you try you will never know, I’m sure you read Banky W and Adesua’s love story she has successfully zoned him but he tried getting out by making his intentions known, it’s never late to make your intentions known I implore you to take that risk it’s always worth it at the end of the day.

Omodara Onome

Life and relationship coach.