Author: Onome Omodara

THE WILL OF GOD IN YOUR LOVE LIFE

“The lord says “I will guide you along the best pathway for your life. I will advise you and watch over you” (psalm 32:8) NLT.

The year was 2015, Tola met David in a seminar and they bonded so well, they became so close that Tola was looking forward to when David would tell her exactly how he felt, everyone felt they were a strong duo. The day Tola dreamt of came to pass when David called and said they should meet as he had something to tell her but she was shocked when uncle said “The lord is not saying about us”, she managed to gather herself and went home heartbroken.

This is just one of such stories I’ve heard, seen and even experienced  and at the same time I’ve also seen and experienced different guys telling a particular lady the lord told them she is their wife and I wonder is God really speaking to them?

As a relationship coach, one major cause of confusion for people has been “what is the will of God about who I should marry”. I’ve met several people who have been so confused about this particular issue and one major bone of contention has been “love versus the Lord says”. A lady sent me a message last year asking me if the lord could lead someone to a person you don’t love. 

What exactly is the will of God?

The lord has promised to guide and instruct us, his will is that we have a good marriage but at the same time God has given every individual the power of choice. All through the bible there are just three instances where it SEEMS as if God chose a partner for them.

1. Adam and Eve (Gen 2: 18-23): when God saw that Adam was alone and there was no helper suitable for him, he created Eve, when Adam saw Eve he immediately named her just like he named other creatures and she became who Adam called her to be. Adam had a choice but he chose Eve.

2. Isaac and Rebecca (Gen 24:1-67): Abraham called for his trusted servant and sent him to find a wife for his son Isaac in his own country, the servant went and prayed to the God of his master he specifically told God what he wanted, a woman who was respectful, kind, loyal and caring which God granted and even after that Rebecca was still asked if she would go with the servant which she agreed to.

3. Hosea and Gomer (Hosea 1: 2-5): Hosea was instructed by God to love and marry a harlot to show how God felt and loved his nation Israel even after they deserted him for other gods.

Asides these three there is no other instance in the bible where God chose, he only directed them to each other (Ruth and Boaz), God will never FORCE you to marry anyone.

It’s funny when the only time some people decide to listen to God is when they want to marry, when they have not even mastered the art of listening to God, how do you expect to hear correctly? 

Truthfully, Love is not the only factor to make a good home but at the same you can’t underestimate its presence. If you don’t love the person who claims God revealed you to him/ her please don’t go ahead. I’ve heard people say love grows which is very true but please let that love grow before you say I do. Don’t marry anyone because the lord says alone, make sure you also say. I repeat don’t marry anyone you won’t be happy being with; you will end up frustrating yourself and your partner.

How do I choose?

 “Delight yourself also in the Lord and He shall give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37: 4) NKJV

Choose with God:

Let God be in your decision, make him the authentic match maker, make sure you check in your spirit with the lord after finding (Proverbs 18:22). Get your own word from God, I’m not against going to your pastor for prayer but whoever you choose to marry is 100% your decision; you are the one to live with the person. 

Stop managing relationships in the name of the “The lord said” God never wants you to live a frustrated life, stop living in bondage and fear (2Timothy 1:7). The Lord loves you and He knows the end from the beginning so choose with God, get a word from God before you move ahead.

NB: God’s plan is that you marry in the kingdom, God won’t direct you to an unbeliever, marry in your father’s kingdom (2 Corinthians 6: 14).

CONCLUSION

“Can two walk together unless they are agreed” (Amos 3:3) NKJV.

Even if the revelation you got lasted for 10 hours, you still have your own part to play to make the relationship work. A good relationship is work, the supernatural will not last and you will make God a liar if you are not committed to making the relationship work, it takes two committed people who effectively communicate to have a great and lasting relationship.

Pardon me if I’ve not been able to answer your burning questions through this particular post, there is a lot to say but time and space would not permit me. If you are confused or you need a friend to talk to and if you want to speak with a counselor, I’m just a message away from you send me a message on onomewrites@gmail.com and I will definitely get back to you.

May you never endure your marriage (Amen).

Your friend and sister,

Omodara Onome

YAY!!!

It feels so good to see another year, I’m sure you are as excited as I am because this year promises to be great and it is filled with exciting opportunities.

I need to appreciate your constant love and support to Onomewrites, the real beauty of writing is getting feedbacks from your audience and you guys have never ceased to do that, I do more because your love keeps me going. Thank you a million times.

A lot of us start the new year with a high frequency, we write down goals and plans  but as the year begins to unfold we get too busy, tired and sometimes frustrated that we refuse to move on with the goals. You can’t keep doing things the same way and expect a different result; if only we would continue with the plans and goals then a great output is achievable. If you desire a great life then it’s time to start again.

THE GOD FACTOR

“Seek the kingdom of God above all else and live righteously, and he will give you everything you need. (Matthew 6:33 NLT)

I really don’t care how long the list is if God is not taking the first place then the list is so wrong, when God is in the right place you can be sure other things will fall in place. What will you do for the lord in 2018?

I promised to keep you guys updated about the man whose story defines Grace (Ayodeji) popularly known as Da-Poet, he promised to release the track titled For the lord today and like he promised the track is already available for downloads. 

The song is his testimony about what He is doing since he got saved and at that the same he is encouraging every one of us to take the right steps and start doing awesome things for the lord in this New Year. To download the song for the lord by Da-Poet click here

Don’t forget to share the song with your loved and I’m looking forward to  your feedbacks.

Let’s ride together in 2018 as we impact nations together. 

I love you!!!

Yours,

Omodara Onome

Life and Relationship coach.

HOW MUCH DO YOU LOVE HIM?

It’ s that time of the year when we claim love is in the air, the spirit of Christmas indeed spells love but what amazes me most of the time is that all we do is celebrate and have fun, we find it so hard to show that love.

It’s that time of the year again when we start planning resolutions for the coming year, we start making plans for the New Year but let me ask again, do you really plan to show love this coming year? It’s really time to start making the right decisions, we all claim we love God but how are we showing it? It is not enough to say we love God; the real love is in showing it. 

Okay guys, do you still remember the young man I interviewed some months ago? Let me not stress you, in case you missed the interview click here. 

Ayodeji decides to share his experience of how the journey has been with Christ but like he promised in the interview to release a new song soon , so in this new song titled “For the Lord” , Ayodeji shared his experience of how the journey has been with Christ.

Let me ask you sincerely, how much do you love the lord? If you truly love the lord then it’s time to start showing it, saying yes to God is a call to righteousness, a call to service. Another year is coming and I ask you “what will you do for the lord?”

If we say we love the lord truly, then it’s time to prove it. The fact that God loves you and he thinks about you is enough to make you do something for the lord and don’t forget you can’t serve the lord in vain, when you serve you can be sure he will repay you. Nothing you do for God is in vain but in the place of service do it because you love the lord.

Let your love for God compel you to do more in 2018, it’s time to pray more, study the word more and even give more. 

Spread the news, let’s start a challenge titled for the lord, let’s use the social media to spread the good news, here is the hot gist, Ayodeji’s new single titled for the lord will be available for downloads on the 1st of January 2018, it’s a song you don’t want to miss. It’s fresh and hot and he did it “For the lord”

I ask you one more time, how much do you love him? If you really do “what will you do for the lord in 2018?”

Let’s spread the good news together.

I love you

Merry Christmas and a happy new year in advance!

Your friend, 

Omodara Onome

 

FOR UZO: A COLLECTION OF MY CONTEMPORARY THOUGHTS

WRITTEN AND COMPILED BY CHUKWUMA OGBOI

Sometimes last month, precisely on the 15th October I published the interview I had with the intellectual and passionate young man Chukwuma Ogboi, in case you missed it click here. During the interview he discussed with us that he is about to release a book and it is my duty to keep you guys updated. Im sorry Im just telling you, the book was released last week on the 23rd of November; you havent missed much as the book is trending presently. What is a book without reviews? Its not about writing a book, the real magic is in making your audience satisfied. I was able to get some reviews about the book. Here is what some individuals had to say about the book titled For Uzo: A collection of My Contemporary thoughts written and compiled by Ogboi Chukwuma.

The book is an e-book that contains 14 chapters which each chapter discussing extensively the issues faced by our dear nation and it also contains the steps we can take to move forward as a nation.

REVIEWS

The book, “For Uzo” (A Collection of My Contemporary Thoughts) by Ogboi Chukwuma does not only propel you to create a reading habit, it equally opens your mind to seemingly unhidden happenings at least in the last one decade and as far as good governance and history are concerned in Nigeria.
                          Chrisray Awodi

The thoughts expressed in the book are as real as the air we breathe every second, this makes the book a practical specimen and true identity of Nigeria under her different levels of hierarchical leadership. 
Ogboi’s choice of words is highly commendable. He aesthetically selected his words and used a tone that’s powerful enough to drive home salient points. These points are a nip in the bud which will in the long run set a pace and historically define the face of leadership in Nigeria and create an extension to other African countries. 
Lending a voice to address a matter of good governance in a volatile society like Nigeria makes Ogboi a hero and I commend him highly for that.
Having read the book, and known its importance, I highly recommend it to everyone who sees good governance as a prerequisite to improved standard of life.
Pick a copy of the book and read. You would have great time reading it.
Buy here https://paystack.com/pay/for-uzo-preoder 
Or alternatively, call +234 706 301 1296

                                         Pastor Tide

 The way leadership  is demonstrated in this country is compelling enough  to  believe  that  the asylum has  been taken over by lunatics  or how else does one explain a nation  where public  office  holders  are  either  not  accountable  for  activities under their supervision or often times  not responsible  for their  actions and inactions.  If  a  senior  executive  of  a company walks  into  an outlet  to  order  for his brand  and he is  told  by the  attendant that  his brand is  out of  stock but he should  jolly well  make  do  with a  competitor’s  brand.  What do you think would happen next?  The  executive  will  put  a  call  through  to  the  area  manager  of  the company,  who  will  very  likely  put  another  call  through  to  the  sales  executive covering that  district to  demand an explanation for why their  brand is  out of  stock  in  a local  outlet  where a competitor’s  brand is  available. 

This is a compelling read! A very stimulating discourse that would require deliberate actions to create a new haven for all.

                                               Precious
YOU NEED TO READ THIS!

Despite the fact that I’m a voracious reader, I rarely read a book from UPCOMING Nigerian writers because I’ve a kinda high standard for my source of information. Myles Munroe in his book titled ‘The Spirit of Leadership’ emphasized the importance of ones source of information because it determines ALL/EVERYTHING one is gonna be. 

Despite this my HIGH standard for my source, there are few NON-CELEBRITY NIGERIANS that I can leave my 6 units course’ handout which I’m supposed to write the exams the following day just to read their Facebook posts. One of these RARE NIGERIAN YOUNGSTERS is Mr. Chukwuma Innocent Ogboi because his views are always what is needed i.e. right rather than what he wants or what agrees with his previous stand. I’ve read his post & wonder how somebody can find it easy to praise the good work of one person & in less than 24hrs constructively criticize the wrong done by the same BIG NAME/TOP GUN.

Guess why I’m saying all these! You ain’t good at guessing? Alright then.

This man has decided to be a blessing to this generation and the ones yet unborn by putting/compiling together some of these aforementioned iconic thoughts in a book.

BOOK? Yes, you read me right. And in order not to keep YOU in darkness by not informing you of what is coming into town beforehand, I officially present to YOU: For Uzo and A collection of my contemporary thoughts by Chuks Ogboi.
I and my team at DAM foundations fully endorse this because we know it is going to be one of those books that will discuss key issues needed by YOU as individual and US as a nation. I without asking Mr. Writer’s permission personally approve your constructive criticisms because I know him as a dynamic professional ever open to ways to improve. 

Save towards the purchase of this masterpiece and help spread the good news as we count on YOU to be a part of this success story.

                                             Prof. DAM

                    Chairman DAM Foundations

 In recent time, there has been different views expressed by different Nigerians on the state of the Nation.

Amongst those expressing their views is this man of intellect, a blogger who knows how to flick and toss words in right order, his name is Ogboi Chukwuma. A youngster writer who in his relentless efforts put together his views and contemporary thoughts into writing that give birth to his first ever book titled ” FOR UZO, A Collection of My Contemporary Thought.”

The book is already available and I bet you dont want to miss it. So do yourself a favour and get a copy.

             Oluyemi Oyebola aka CBN

This is one book I read and got me glued, one interesting factor is that the author laid down the problems but he didnt stop there, he went ahead to proffer solutions! A better Nigeria is possible and that is why I will encourage every passionate Nigerian both young and old to please get this book, read it and act for the change begins with us as individuals.

          Omodara Onome

CONCLUSION

After reading those reviews, I’m pretty sure the next thing on your mind is how do I get a copy? relax, I’ve got you covered. If you want to get a copy click here and make your order. Im not giving you lies; I personally endorse this book even for the next generation. If we desire a better nation then the time to act is now.
Omodara Onome

onomewrites@gmail.com

You are not a super being!

As a life and relationship coach I get to hear stories that make me wonder and ponder, I’ve seen and read from people who have been through challenges but what I love about some of these people is that they know and understand that they need help.

  I’m going to be sharing the story of  one of them, a young lady who was and is still strong but tender at heart. 

THE STORY

Life didn’t play fair with me as a little girl, I grew up understanding what challenges meant, my father was what you can call a not so good example of what a father should be. He comes back late at night drunk and would still beat my mother every day.  Tragedy struck when I lost my mother at the age 9 and I had to live with my uncle and his wife (My mother’s brother). 

My uncle’s family was so beautiful, they had three sons and we bonded so quickly. Life was getting interesting again, until my cousin raped me when I was 12, he never stopped at a point I became used to it so it wasn’t rape anymore, I had to learn to enjoy it  and this continued until he left for the university, that time I had turned 15. He told me not to tell anyone he promised to kill me if I ever told anyone and so I became quiet about it and I was so sure no one will ever believe me.

 I lived with this pain for years, one day he came back from school apologizing that it was some teenage fantasy that was affecting him and he expected me to forgive him.   I grew up having a strong hatred for the male gender.

When I got admission to the university I had vowed not to have any relationship with any man because as far as I was concerned men are all the same. I thought I was strong until I met him in my second year he kept asking me for a relationship, there was something about him that I couldn’t resist, I can say it was his physical strength because really he was very cute but I think it had to do with his sweetness, he was the sweetest guy I’ve ever met he was so sweet and nice.

 I gave him a resounding No, I even shouted at him on so many occasions but he would just not give up, he kept pursuing until my heart was softened and I gave him a Yes.  My relationship was going on well until he asked me for sex and I refused not because I wanted to but because my experience about sex wasn’t too good and I was scared. He kept me demanding and I had to tell him my story but all he did was to promise me that he won’t hurt me but I just couldn’t trust him. 

Two weeks later, I went to see him and you would not believe what I saw. I met another lady with him on the bed and when I asked him all he could say was that since he wasn’t getting it from me he had to get it somewhere else. I walked out and ended the relationship and that day I gave up on men.

My heart has been broken and I’ve been so hurt so like any normal person would do, which is to give up on love I decided to focus on better things and learning new things. 

Six months after, this fine young man enters my life, initially I pushed him away but he said all he wanted was friendship so I yielded and we became closer but the truth was, I had a crush on him but since he made it clear that he wanted friendship so I never gave it a thought.  I really thought I was strong and I always told myself nothing can ever break me.

It was all lies there was still the girly part of me yearning to be revealed so I intentionally closed every thought about me and him dating but life has a way of showing you that you need help, I went to see my new friend and I really can’t explain the how but we kissed. I felt like a fool how did it happen? Why in God’s name would I kiss my crush? The same thing happened three different times, every time we met we kissed until the day I got the courage to shout  that It was not fun for me and he didn’t even act like he cared about my feelings all he did was to walk out on me. I felt so stupid, I felt used but I don’t blame him because he didn’t force me but I learnt a lesson that I needed help and being strong does not mean I am a super being. 

CONCLUSION

I write to you strong ones, the ones that life has challenged, the ones whose hearts have been broken, the ones who has seen it all but never gave up.  The ones life has crushed but they are not destroyed, the ones who has seen and experienced betrayals from your loved ones. Yes, I salute your courage and it takes a lot of strength to move on and just like this young lady you are truly strong.

Nobody knows how strong they are until they are tested in the heats and challenges of life but you need to know that you are not a super being, you still have emotions and your emotions will still be tested. As a young lady trying to survive and live in purpose, I faced some difficulties and I am still growing but it took me time to learn that I was not a super being and I would always need help. 

Your emotions are a part of you and you cannot underestimate its power but the painful part is that it is too fleeting to make a decision on. 

As strong as you are, you are going to make mistakes and you really don’t have to kill yourself when you make one. You are human and you don’t have to sit down in guilt for too long. Mistakes don’t define you so when you make a mistake pick your lessons and move on, learn from that experience and become better so you don’t make the same mistake again. Stop crying, don’t hate yourself. 

Your strength is in moving on; the real strength is in moving from the past and focusing on the future.

The real strength is in knowing and understanding that you can’t handle it on your own; you need the help and strength of God. Man has been wired to always want more, so life would always push you and the best person who can help you is God.

The real strength is in absolute and complete dependence on and in God. 

Yes, you are strong as long as you don’t give up.

Keep fighting

Keep wining and keep pursuing your goals.

You are strong!

You need a friend to talk to; I’m just a message away from you.

Omodara Onome

Life and relationship coach

onomewrites@gmail.com